Narcissism is defined as: an excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one’s physical appearance. Chances are you have either met someone who is overly confident to the point of being narcissistic or maybe you are that person and you haven’t quite realized it. In this article, I will go through all of the signs of narcissism so that you can better read the traits when they are staring you right in the face or even if that face is a reflection of yourself in the mirror.
PSYCHOLOGYextreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one’s own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterizing a personality type.
PSYCHOANALYSISself-centeredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects, either in very young babies or as a feature of mental disorder. Source: Google
Dating, being friends, or working with someone who is completely consumed in themselves can be one of the most frustrating things. They don’t want to listen. They believe their way is the only way. They don’t want to share any of the credit or praise you on anything you’ve accomplished, because they don’t believe you can be any better or remotely better than they are in any way; to them they are the best thing anyone will ever have and it should feel like a privilege to be in their company.
Narcissistic people are very difficult to deal with. They know how to turn the tables on you and make you feel at fault for their mistakes and shortcomings. When you realize you’re dealing with a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder it is easier to let the things that would typically bother you to roll off your back because you know it is not you– it IS in fact them.
- Interrupt conversations frequently and put focus primarily on themselves.
- Violates boundaries- physical space and possessions.
- NO regard for your thoughts or feelings.
- When approached about any problem they lash out at you and make it feel as if you did something wrong instead of owning up to their mistake and apologizing to you for feeling hurt or mistreated.
- Promote a false image of themselves and their lifestyle. They brag about how much money hey make, where they live, what they drive, the power they have over others– they mislead you into believing they live a grand lifestyle disregarding all humble behavior.
- Oh so CHARMING. Narcissists tend to be quite charming. They can swoop you right off your feet before you even know what hit you. They make you feel special until they get what they want or change their mind about you and then they drop you without any warning or explanation.
- They are really negative. You can tell they aren’t truly happy. They complain about the most ridiculous things and go on rants about things they shouldn’t or don’t even matter in the big picture.
- Manipulation at it’s finest.
- Most are quiet and shy, but likable at first.
- They make promises they don’t keep and are full of excuses.
“The sadistic narcissist perceives himself as Godlike, ruthless and devoid of scruples, capricious and unfathomable, emotion-less and non-sexual, omniscient, omnipotent and omni-present, a plague, a devastation, an inescapable verdict.”
― Sam Vaknin
“Even though friends say they are interested in your life, they never really want to talk about you as much as you want them to. (68)”
― Charise Mericle Harper,
“When the healthy pursuit of self-interest and self-realization turns into self-absorption, other people can lose their intrinsic value in our eyes and become mere means to the fulfillment of our needs and desires.”
― P.M. Forni,
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