We are now going into our second month of social distancing and quarantining at home to stay safe from the Coronavirus here in Los Angeles. This is a time of adjustment and major changes we are all facing in various ways that are causing us to adapt to a new normal.
Day after day, I scroll through social media and see meme after meme of people joking about day drinking and texts from friends getting hammered every night on average and it’s pretty mind-blowing to see this kind of increase of alcohol abuse. I quit drinking a while ago and have found it easier than ever, thanks to this time of quarantine. I believe the main factor of this equation is I’m not around anyone who’s pressuring me to drink.
When I’m alone it’s easy to stay sober, but I understand most people experience the opposite.
Being alone for me is the most peaceful thing in the world. I love the quietness of being in my own world; safe in my own sanctuary that I call home. I am extremely sensitive to other people’s energy, loud noises (thanks to trauma), and prefer being alone over anything else. For most people who are not comfortable being alone, being sober is quite difficult, causing this time of quarantine to be an absolute struggle, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Yes, alcohol abuse is on the rise. Sales for beer, wine, and liquor have increased drastically. A recent study reveals alcohol sales in the United States have gone up 55% in March 2020.
“One way Americans are coping with the new coronavirus? Booze. U.S. sales of alcoholic beverages rose 55% in the week ending March 21, according to Nielsen. Spirits like tequila, gin and pre-mixed cocktails led the way, with sales jumping 75% compared to the same period last year. Wine sales were up 66% while beer sales rose 42%.” – Associated Press
I was watching a YouTube video yesterday of this lady that I admire and watch her finishing school videos every week and she was going on about how even though she doesn’t usually drink alcohol that she will “definitely be drinking during quarantine.” That was annoying to me because what sort of strength does that show to her audience and people who look up to her for advice on living a healthy and elegant lifestyle? Personally, drinking, being drunk, making poor choices, and being hungover is NOT cute. It’s certainly not a look I’m going for and that is why I quit drinking.
One thing I want to mention though is that I do not judge anyone for the choice to drink. Every person on this planet is free to make any choice they wish. That’s your decision. I personally don’t like drinking or being drunk so being sober is my choice whether or not people close to me enjoy this because she lost a drinking buddy. Sorry? I guess?…
The majority of people who get addicted to drugs and alcohol are looking for an escape from reality, from the pain they wish to numb. We all have pain and challenges that arise in our lives, but how you cope with it is what determines the difference between success and failure. Using drugs and alcohol to cope only lead to poor decision making and making it more difficult to live a healthy and stable lifestyle.
If you are someone who is curious about getting sober and cleaning up your life, what better time than right now!?
One of my most favorite things about being sober is waking up early every morning and feeling absolutely fabulous. Not sleeping in or going about my day with remorse or regret about what I did or said the night before. I am more productive sober than I was ever capable of being during years of drinking. You may notice, I’ve been publishing more blogs. My mind is clear and focused. My choices are better thought out and not reckless, so that’s a plus. My relationships have improved and I feel better about myself overall which is something I struggled with for many years.
For the longest time, I doubted my every move. I’ve struggled with anxiety for years. Alcohol was never something that helped with any of this. In fact, it only made matters worse, every single time. That is why I decided to kick the madness to the curb and live a life free from addictive substances. I don’t drink. I don’t smoke. I work out every day and eat healthy. I try my best to stay on a steady track of living a life that I can feel proud of and make the most of the time I am given here on earth.
Here are several tips for anyone who is ready to ditch the bottle and get sober. Also, be sure to leave any questions or comments you have for me in the comment section at the bottom of this page. I love hearing from you all!
- Tell those close to you that you have decided to quit drinking or getting high. Ask them kindly to please respect your wishes and not pressure you to participate in using or consuming addictive substances (drugs and alcohol).
- Get rid of any alcohol you have in the house. Give it or throw it away. Convenient access to alcohol, weed, cigarettes, you name it, will make it more difficult to quit.
- Distance yourself from anyone and everyone who tempt you to use drugs and alcohol. Anyone who does not respect your desire to get sober is not your friend. Find sober friends who support your goals instead.
- Make it a point to wake up early and work out in the morning. Holding yourself accountable for morning activity could lessen your temptation to drink the night before.
- Read The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure by Pax and Chris Prentiss
- Start a journal and practice writing in it once a day to release your thoughts, ideas, and feelings about the past, present, or future.
- Meditate once a day to relax and rewire your mind to create a healthy flow of thinking and being. Meditation can also help with cravings to addictive substances.
- Find an outdoor activity you enjoy doing such as running, hiking, surfing, golfing, paddle boarding, yoga, photography, or gardening. Getting fresh air and sunshine as often as possible is an essential way to give your mind, body, and spirit the natural nutrients it needs.
- When you feel the desire to drink or use drugs, stop and ask yourself, “What will this solve? Why do I want to put this in my body? What am I running from?” Allow yourself the opportunity to discover clarity on how you’re feeling at that moment so you can pause and pivot to make a better choice.
- Talk to a therapist or trusted friend when you are experiencing anxiety, stress, triggers, or just need someone to hear you out and help you sort through all the thoughts rattled up in your busy mind.
“You are not an alcoholic or an addict. You are not incurably diseased. You have merely become dependent on substances or addictive behavior to cope with underlying conditions that you are now going to heal, at which time your dependency will cease completely and forever.”
― Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure