Here’s to all the girls who date a guy for several years and when they break up, the guy finds some random girl to give everything you ever wanted from him/in a relationship to, in a fraction of the time. My guess is this has happened at least once to every person out there because it has happened to me “two” many times. The question is, what can you do in the situation you’re in now, reflecting and wondering, “What the heck did I do wrong and what’s so special about this new chick anyway?”.
Well a couple of things are usually happening here.
1. You might have been the “nice girl” on the back-burner all along and never noticed/accepted it.
2. He wasn’t ready for commitment when and now (miraculously) is but with some other girl who swept him away by her cheap perfume and flirty eyes. Guys settle down differently than women. They are typically not looking for specific traits (or so it seems). They are more focused on where they are at in their careers, experience and blah-dee- blah-dee-blah. Where as women look at all the details about a person before getting serious (or at least I do but do not refer to my track record on that).
I have learned that it is extremely important to be thankful that you are not that girl your ex is currently dating. The girl he is dating is having to deal with the damaged goods of your past that she’s decided to settle with. And, while he’s still calling you, asking to see you, buying you gifts and saying you’re the love of his life, he’s off with this new chick that you’ve warmed him up for.
But, hey, listen, I know it can be disappointing to have trained a young gentlemen for a long period of time only to have him go off and treat someone better than he ever treated you. The guy is clearly a waste of time if he couldn’t be loyal, couldn’t settle down and give you everything your heart desired. So, don’t feel bad if you’re a warm up girl too. It happens to the best of us, right? O_o