Not long ago I was walking out of Bed Bath and Beyond with my friend and one of the workers said, “my daughter is one of those suicide girls” and my friend replied, “like one of the models?” The worker replied, “No. She is obsessed with the idea of suicide.” Neither one of us knew what to say after that. We looked back at the man and just told him to get her some help before she does anything.
The way this worker so casually said this to two complete strangers was a bit alarming. It was clearly something that he wanted to talk to someone, anyone about.
I thought about that this morning when I woke up with a heavy heart after receiving texts from my longtime friend last night that he was having suicidal thoughts. He has been sending me long threads of messages for the past year on and off, sulking in his misery and feeling alone. I’ve been an ear to listen and I sat there numerous nights lending my support and sending back encouraging text messages. Things don’t seem to be improving one bit. His messages keep getting darker and it’s weighing on me big time today because too many people who appear happy and lend so much love but crave attention so desperately and in their loneliness have these depressing emotions and thoughts to end their own life– they don’t see the light even on the brightest of days.
It’s heartbreaking, but the people struggling are the ones who have to make changes in their life and within themselves. No one can do that for them. They need to know they are loved and it’s okay to ask for help. Suppressing any emotion is unhealthy.
When someone mentions they are having suicidal thoughts, immediately send them the Suicide Prevention Hotline (1-800-273-8255). It is a 24/7 hotline that helps counsel individuals struggling with these dark related thoughts. This is something that should never be taken lightly. The person struggling needs help right away and it’s nothing to shove off.
Throughout life, we all face difficult times, and some things are more challenging for some than others. I am sympathetic to that. If you are hurting right now and you are reading this and have been having similar thoughts, please reach out to the Prevention Hotline at (1-800-273-8255). Your life is waiting to be lived. It’s time to start feeling better. Do not give up hope. You can get better!
Choose life. Get the help you need and if you are someone who is trying to help a loved one through a suicidal episode, turn to a professional who can provide the treatment this person needs.
If you or someone you love is struggling with a drug or alcohol addiction, call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers at (888) 397-0112.